Tuesday, 23rd February, 2021

8 Tips For Choosing Your Wedding Party - Fenix Events Wedding Blog

8 Tips For Choosing Your Wedding Party

1. Family comes first

Your Maid of Honour or Best Man is supposed to be the person/people that you feel most connected to. By all means, they don’t need to be your family but it does avoid drama between friends who think they should be chosen for the position.

2. You can have more than one Maid/Matron of Honour and/or Best Man

There are no rules when it comes to the number of people you’d like to have in your wedding party. Whether you’ve got a best friend and a sibling, or more than one best friend who you’re equally close to, consider asking the both of them to stand up with you on the day of.

3. You don’t have to have a Maid of Honour or a Best Man

If the pressure to choose someone is too much or if you are feeling forced to choose someone because it is the ‘done thing’, there is no rule saying you must have a Maid of Honour or a Best Man. Your wedding is between you and your partner and that should be the most important thing to consider.

4. Role swap

Bridesmaids don’t have to be “maids” and Best Men don’t have to be “men”. Swap it around, if that is what will work best for you. Your bridal party should be made up of the people who mean the most to you.

5. Pick the right qualities

Whoever you choose as your Best Man or Maid of Honour, they must be willing to be there for you throughout the whole journey. You will need someone who is responsible, and is physically, mentally and financially available to help. You would be doing him or her a disservice if they were swamped with other responsibilities. You need someone who you can trust to tell you the truth about things.

6. Don’t make the decision out of obligation.

It’s an honour to be chosen to be a part of someone’s wedding party, but don’t choose people based on the fact that you were in their wedding. You shouldn’t have to feel the pressure to return the favour.

7. The decision is yours

Don’t let anyone influence you on your decision, as ultimately, it’s you who has to feel good about your choice. If you think you can’t choose between your group of friends, then have a group of bridesmaids and groomsmen and do without the maid/matron of honour and best man. It’s you and your partner’s day and you need to make the decision that will be the perfect fit for the two of you, regardless of other’s expectations.

8. Look forward, not backward

When drawing up your list, choose people who can and are going to be committed from the start to the end. Weddings are about new beginnings and the people you choose to stand beside you when you get married should be people who you can see in your life going forward.